
Are you a woman over 50 who chose to live alone? Do you love your solo life? Or are you struggling?
Let’s chat about the struggles first. When I wrote the article “Are more women living alone and thriving?” I received many questions and comments. The article didn’t address the struggles of a woman over 50 living alone; people felt I should have shared more about them, and they shared their issues. But don’t worry; I will also address the great things about solo living after 50!
Loneliness is one of the biggest problems for women who live alone at an older age. Loneliness can come from unmet expectations when trying to make new friends.
When we expect deep connections to happen effortlessly, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Instead, focus on small steps toward connection.
Tip: Substitute the word “friend” for “acquaintance”.
I focus on making acquaintances whenever I meet people. It makes it easier to set aside the pressure to make a new friend and lets me off the hook if I don’t connect with anyone.
Acquaintances are great because you can see them occasionally for coffee or something. There are no expectations, and hopefully, you will have a good chat and a few laughs and see them next month.
When loneliness is a burden you can’t shake off, you have to examine your living situation and daily life carefully.
Making friends is like dating. You will need to put yourself in situations where you will meet people and then see them a few times to see if you match. If you don’t, keep them as an acquaintance and keep meeting people.
Look for group activities. Group activities are the safest way to meet people when you feel vulnerable. Think of it like this: if you didn’t meet anyone you liked, at least you did something you wanted. You do not return home empty-handed because you just had a great experience doing something fun. So you must look for group activities that you like!
I suggest that you seek help. Sometimes, it’s really hard to get unstuck, and we need that second voice. Look for a professional. A professional will help you sort out if your loneliness feeling is also a depression or if it’s something you can change with behavioral therapy or another type of therapy.
Take care of your body! You must take good care of your body.
Create a Support Network: Choose a few people who will be your point of contact in an emergency.
Prioritize Your Health: Do your yearly check-ups!
Stay Engaged: Volunteering, attending classes, or participating in community activities can keep you connected and prevent feelings of isolation.
Join a medical concierge.
A medical concierge can be a lifesaver. If you feel sick, write to or call them; they will help you with whatever you need. They may send a nurse to your home, or if they feel it’s an emergency, they will call an ambulance—peace of mind.
Will you feel better having a medical alert system?
Get one!
It can be a challenge for a woman over 50 to start over, but it’s also a great time for reinvention!
Many women find this period an opportunity to pursue passions they’d set aside. This phase is the best time to try new things, be curious, and take a few risks!
1) Search for things you are interested in and join the groups or classes.
I’m a big fan of hobbies. I have met many people through my hobbies. I’m always taking a class on one thing or another. I love to sketch, so I joined drawing sessions here in Lisbon. What do you like to do?
2) Entertain yourself.
Take yourself out to dinner and lunch. Go to movies, plays, and music concerts on your own. Treat yourself to fun activities in the evening and during the day.
3) Change your look!
Are you ready to tweak a few things in your wardrobe? This is the perfect time! Study your closet and shop for a few things to upgrade your look. DO NOT go off budget 🙂
4) Make weekly play dates!
Meet people for coffee or a meal at least once a week and have a plan B should they cancel at the last minute. Keep your expectations low, and have lots of fun!
5) Learn something new.
6) Plan for a solo trip and go on the solo trip!
There are several ways to enjoy doing things alone. The first is to practice. Small steps will do it.
Living alone doesn’t have to mean living a lesser life. It can be an opportunity to discover what truly makes you happy. Whether exploring a new hobby, connecting with others through activities, or simply enjoying your company.
Remember, it’s okay to have moments of struggle. What matters is how you respond to them.
With a bit of creativity and resilience, living alone after 50 can be a rewarding experience.
Marguerite Beaty, Blogger, Photographer & Artist
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